I have one brother. He's three years older then I am and we are like night and day. Growing up we were the best friends and worst enemies at the same time. We got in some all out brawls. I resented him a lot because he was clearly my moms favorite. I can't tell you really how he felt about me. Since we've become adults we've mostly kept to ourselves. We talk several times a year and see each other maybe once a year. I don't lean on him or share with him or anything like that. Mostly I talk to him when I need to discuss something about our parents. And that makes me sad sometimes. But I have been lucky enough to find people in my life who feel like my siblings, even if none of the blood in our veins is the same. So I don't dwell on it.
Hubby has one older brother too. His relationship is much the same as mine except more complicated. I'll leave it at that because that's his story to tell, not mine. Needless to say though, neither of us have stellar sibling relationships and we've spent a lot of time trying to figure out why. My closets friends have siblings but none of them are really close. When I meet people who are close with their siblings, I end up asking too many questions I'm sure. They may feel like I'm interrogating them but I'm just so at a loss. How does that happen? Is it something parents create? Is it just a difference in the family as a whole or the siblings? I want to know more details, mostly because I want to do everything in my power to help Bean and Birdie really care about each other and want to spend time together.
So if you are willing, help me out please, and answer a few questions.
1) Do you have any siblings? Are they the same gender or different? What is the age difference?
2) What kind of a relationship do you feel like you have with your siblings? Do you have a clear picture as to how that came about?
3) No matter what kind of relationship you have, do you feel like your parents did do something to foster that or could they have done something to make it different?
4) Feel free to share anything else that you'd like.
I find the whole subject so curious. I know that there are people out there who talk to their siblings all the time, do things together, and are a regular part of each others lives. I just don't know those people! Please help!